Domestic Violence

I was just reading the article "My mother stayed with my abusive father for 22 years. That's a lot of bruises - Kathryn Heyman"

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/mar/02/my-mother-stayed-with-my-father-for-22-years-thats-a-lot-of-bruises

I figured why would a political party dominated by men not cut back on funding for the Women's Shelters, whats wrong with today's societies? Perhaps there should come a time when they should experience what it feels like to be abused. Some of the the political party leaders have never experienced hardship and they will never, maybe they should.

http://news.thesocialcrat.com/?p=1827

It all starts from childhood, if your a parent and your young boy did something similar to this article, maybe you should rethink you position as mother. If you think that what he has done is indeed wrong then you should be reprimanding him and not seeking justice just because the girl retaliated! You would be encouraging him to further provoke other girls and that he has your blessing. If he doesn't have the common sense to know what is right or wrong then you might just be bailing him out of jail for sexually abusing your niece or maybe your best friend's daughter. Just wake up already! Just because he is your only son doesn't make him an angel in every right, chances are high that you might just loose him to the devil later down the track. If you think you've got it bad there is always someone else somewhere in the world that has it worst than you. Everyone's experience is unique there is no two exactly the same icicle, so don't ever think your special.

I remember when I was in my teens we would get smacked for making mistakes but I learned my lesson, but now teachers are not allowed to even spank the children just cause a teacher was caught molesting the students. One student and the whole world changes! So now the students just walks all over the teachers and parents alike. Parents these days couldn't even be bothered as they are too engrossed in work to support the family which I don't blame them but your totally missing out on your child's development to respect you as an elder and to look up to you as their role model. When time flies and your child dis-respects you only then you realise you've just missed the boat and your child is no longer around and your left with the retirement homes and thats where you'll be till the day you pass.

What is the world coming too?

Common factors in domestic violence

There is no such thing as a ‘typical’ perpetrator of domestic violence. However, researchers have found that men who abuse family members often:

• Use violence and emotional abuse to control their families. 
• Believe that they have the right to behave in whatever way they choose while in their own home. 
• Think that a ‘real’ man should be tough, powerful and the head of the household. They may believe that they should make most of the decisions, including about how money is spent. 
• Believe that men are entitled to sex from their partners. 
• Don’t take responsibility for their behaviour and prefer to think that loved ones or circumstances provoked their behaviour. 
• Make excuses for their violence: for example, they will blame alcohol or stress. 
• Report ‘losing control’ when angry around their families, but can control their anger around other people. They don’t tend to use violence in other situations: for example, around friends, bosses, work colleagues or the police. 
• Try to minimise, blame others for, justify or deny their use of violence, or the impact of their violence towards women and children. 

Some men who use violence have grown up in an abusive household themselves, but the majority have not. Some come from lower socioeconomic groups and some have problems with alcohol. However, this is not the case for all men who use domestic violence.